Flying solo for the holidays

Pine scented candles sitting in red and green candle holders add subtle touches of the holiday season in my living room.  A freshly decorated Douglas fir Christmas tree sits in the corner near the balcony.  Holiday greeting cards are draped around my book case and desk. Garland with white twinkle lights hangs above the kitchen... Continue Reading →

To be, or not to be–a Mom

Elizabeth, Victoria, Alyssa, Mia, Lilia Sophie, Ava, Bela… these are just a few of the girl baby names I’ve picked out over the years for a future daughter of mine. When I see this list, I can remember the age and time of my life when I chose it. For example, I was a huge... Continue Reading →

Being single is a disease??

My tagline under my blog's title reads “40yo+Single+Pakistani+American=we’ll see where this goes…” As I was thinking of a new post to write, I was literally at a point where I didn’t know where this next one will go, and it scared me.  After I wrote the last piece about my parents, I didn’t know if... Continue Reading →

Venus and Morgan AND June 14, 1972

On June 14, 1972, my mom and dad, Venus and Morgan, eloped.  Couples elope all the time here in the U.S. for various reasons, but in 1972, in the country of Pakistan, this was certainly not the cultural norm that was expected of my parents, but you see they had to elope since their love... Continue Reading →

L.A. vs. the other LA

Los Angeles vs. Louisiana. Is there a winner? At the start of each semester, I play an icebreaker game with my students to introduce myself to them. On the PowerPoint slide, I list eight statements about me. Four of them are true about me, and four of them are not true. On a sheet of... Continue Reading →

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